1st published on 8th July 2012 on Facebook.
Christians are fond of defining Biblical Marriage as one man, one woman, bonded for life, sexually exclusive, and celibate before marriage. The problem is, that’s not in the Bible. In order to find that model of marriage, we will have to look beyond the bible.
Taking the Bible as a whole, there are far more references to polygamy — and far more approval from Yahweh himself for the institution — than for monogamous marriage.
If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated: Then it shall be, when he maketh his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, which is indeed the firstborn: (Deuteronomy 21:15-16)
Earlier in the same chapter, rules were spelt out for taking captive slaves and adding them to your harem of wives.
And David took him more concubines and wives out of Jerusalem, after he was come from Hebron: and there were yet sons and daughters born to David. (2 Samuel 5:13)
David, the direct ancestor of Yeshua, had six wives and many concubines. Concubines, by virtue of NOT being wives, are pretty solid evidence that non-married sex wasn’t an especially bad thing in the Old Testament.
Speaking of non-married sex, King Solomon, the wisest man in the history of the universe, had 300 concubines. Think about how many times you had sex last year. Solomon probably had beaten you to it before he even got to the first of his 700 wives.
Rehoboam, Solomon’s son, didn’t do quite so well. He only had 18 wives and 60 concubines. (2 Chronicles 11:21) Esau had three wives. At first, he married two Caananite women, but his parents were mad at him — not for having two wives, but because they were foreigners. So he found himself a good Jewish girl and took her for his own.
Christians love this passage: `For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh‘ ? 6. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” (Matthew 19: 5-6). It proves Yeshua advocated one man, one woman, with no divorce, right?
Well… not exactly. For some reason, they forget the rest of the passage. 8. Yeshua replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.” Yeshua goes on to prohibit divorce for just any cause, but NOT multiple wives.
More importantly, there is not a single passage to be found in the New Testament where Yeshua condemns, outlaws, or otherwise prohibits polygamy. Really! There isn’t a single one. Read it for yourself and see. One would think that if it was important for his followers to abandon the marital traditions of hundreds of years, and more importantly, of his own forbears — those men who were individually chosen by Yahweh – he might have taken a moment to mention it.
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